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Self-confidence

Hello again awesome people,

Today we discuss self-confidence, another dominant alpha male trait that will serve you well in your journey to reaching your full potential.

Self-confidence is a little bit of a tricky monster. It is generated by faith in your abilities, or success from the past, but without self-confidence it becomes very difficult to muster courage to take action. Unless it is practiced daily it becomes very hard to gain a strong sense of self-confidence that is generated from within.

The problem is one of a vicious self perpetuating cycle: no past success, no self-confidence. No self-confidence, no risks, or no success.

So the real question becomes how does one with little to no self-confidence gain some to take action?

The answer is remarkably simple: PERSPECTIVE!

Example from my past:

In college I was considerably overweight, I ate fast food like there was no tomorrow, I drank twelve cans of soda everyday and walked only when I had to go to my classes.

I took in tons of empty calories, lived a stressful and sedentary lifestyle, and did nothing about the fact that I felt so horrible about the way that I looked that I did nothing but make my bad situation worse.

I had no self-confidence, because I felt bad about the way that I looked, I could gain no self-confidence because I had caught myself up in a vicious self perpetuating cycle.

It wasn’t until after I graduated from college that I kicked my soda habit because my dentist told me unless I wanted to be the youngest guy he’d ever fit for dentures I needed to stop drinking soda, so I did.

I stopped drinking soda and I felt better, I drank more water, my skin looked better, I lost weight, a lot, and quickly. I felt better about myself and I noticed when I would go to social functions, women would smile at me more, want to talk to me more than when I was still in school which gave me confidence. It began spilling into all aspects of my life and I began to have more faith in me.

In all due fairness the catalyst that forced change was my dentist, but the quantifiable result was weight loss, a healthier me, and as a result, my self-confidence skyrocketed.

What I realized in hindsight was that if I would have shifted my perspective, focused on the potential for positive change instead of wallowing in my own self pity I would have gained that confidence years earlier.

Here’s a few ideas to give you self-confidence and force you to view yourself in a positive perspective without a catalyst forcing you to change:

-You’re reading this are you not? Constant growth and learning is a big alpha trait, way to go!

-Brag about you for a moment, think about your accomplishments from the past, successful relationships you’ve maintained with family and friends for years. (This is an indication that you have a tremendous amount of value.)

-Smile, at all people you interact with today. Strangers and friends/family alike. The power of a smile is palpable, others feel happy when you smile, as do you because you generated that feeling in someone else.

-Compliment someone today, anyone, be it on an article of clothing they wear, or a character trait you’ve observed about them, compliment someone. You are a wise and shrewd alpha, show your appreciation for others.

-Do something today that gets you out of your comfort zone a little. Watch a TV show or movie you’ve never seen, strike up a conversation with a bored person while running errands, read an article in cosmopolitan, do something today that you normally would not do.

After you have completed one or more of these tasks take a moment of self reflection and remember to yourself that you have reasons to be self-confident! The world needs you to be at your best due to the fact that we have little time on this earth! The world deserves you at your best and we are heading in the right direction gents! I’m proud of you!

Tomorrow we discuss Drive, another trait that is self generated.

Keep on shining awesome guys, until tomorrow, yours truly,

Spencer Saunders

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Perseverance

Hello again gents!

Today we discuss another alpha male trait that lives inside you that you need to begin embracing to start starving towards your full potential as a man.

Perseverance

I know at some point in your life you’ve had to overcome hard circumstances, a lost job, broke up with a girlfriend, wife, beloved family member, or suffered any kind of personal or professional setback.

You know the old saying “when it rains it pours”? Old sayings would not be old if they had no meaning to them.

When something goes wrong it seems as if another thing goes wrong, and then another, another, or the “snowball effect” right?

It has happened to all of us at some point in our lives. When one thing goes wrong we can deal with it, but it seems to come in twos, threes, or fours and our spirit becomes broken.

You may be asking yourself how does one stay so optimistic when all around you is crumbling? Simple: Perseverance is a quantifiable result of self-confidence and unwavering optimism.

When you know you have a tremendous amount of value to offer the world you push through the bad times and accept them as learning experiences to get you where you need to be in this life. (Self-confidence is tomorrow’s trait, hint, hint)

To boil it down to it’s simplest form, perseverance says more about you than you might think. Say you suffer  a setback, when you re-organize, learn from your mistake, and push on, and build something better than what you did before, you need speak not one word about how you have overcome obstacles because the results are right there for anyone to see.

“Actions speak louder than words” another old saying that is old because it is so true.

I’ll share an example from my very recent past:

I made friends with someone who I thought was a cool person and they turned out to burn me. They corrupted my files, hacked into my bank accounts, and set my freelance and ebook writing back a couple of weeks. I was trying to help this person deal with a personal problem that they only wanted to complain about and not really solve.

Naturally I had only two options: cry and feel sorry for myself and blast this person on Facebook or, accept that I had trusted the wrong person, ignored my instincts, and rebuild my brand, bigger and better than before.

Obviously I choose option two, I will get so much more satisfaction writing better posts, articles, and ebooks, then I will blasting that person and letting them win. Perseverance, like unwavering optimism are two of the corner stones of a winner’s mentality.

Winners know that the road will offer more than it’s fair share of obstacles and setbacks, but you must push through and accept your mistakes, learn from them and build something bigger and better than you did in the first place.

-Know you have a lot of value to offer the world

-Accept that all successful people suffer setbacks and learn from them

-If things keep going wrong, re-examine your routines, make adjustments, and try something different

Alright cool guys, until tomorrow, we discuss self-confidence.

Your partner in self-development crime,

Spencer Saunders

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Unwavering Optimism

Hey awesome guys,

The topic of this first post is the ultimate alpha male quality all successful alpha males have: unwavering optimism.

Before we go further let me first thank you for slamming your eye balls here! Time is our most precious currency in life, I hate having mine wasted and know you feel the same way.

Over the past couple of months I have discovered my full potential in this life. I have two passions; screenwriting/film creative development and helping other men reach their full potential.

People are at their best when they are striving towards perfection, or in other words, working with a sense of purpose. Those two factors are the most important in gaining fulfillment in the short amount of time we have on this earth.

The most important alpha male trait is unwavering optimism, and ironically enough it is the easiest to begin drawing out of yourself. I used to get very down very quickly, I was depressed, and had no sense of purpose in life, I was broken.

Optimism is nothing more than the belief/display of a positive outlook on life. You’ve heard the glass half empty or half full debate right? All of our experiences in life, good or bad, have a tremendous amount of value.

Good experiences and memories give us healthy self-esteem and self-confidence. In trying times they serve to remind us that something better waits after we push through adversity. They remind us that we are smart, passionate, friendly, and make good decisions.

Bad experiences are warnings. In optimistic terms, the bad are learning experiences. We’ve all had some terrible summer job right? The money earned from it was good, however the learning experiences that sucky job provided was probably more valuable than the monetary compensation right?

So we have to identify key points towards remaining positive in times of adversity, if you get negative, you are robbing the world of your full potential, and I’m excited to see what you guys end up doing to make the world a better place!

If you get down, here’s a list to regain your optimism:

-Remember a joke, say it to yourself and laugh

-Remember a compliment someone gave you

-Think of a fun childhood activity, sports, church group, or scouts, camp, remember fun times

-Distract your mind, brag about you to you, think about your accomplishments you are proud of

-Remember the things you are thankful for, I.E. family, friends, job, home, clothes, car, food, pets

-Seek an activity that you are good at, video games, creative endeavors, crafts, or socialization

Remember if nothing else that life has a never ending learning curve and the fact that you make mistakes is nothing more than you trying to hit your full potential!

Okay gents, keep those chins up and drive on! I’m excited to see what you all can do with your lives! Until tomorrow,

Spencer Saunders

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